National Lazy Mom's Day on September 3 this year is observed on the first Friday of September every year. It's your reminder to lend a hand and give your mom a much-deserved break from her daily tasks. Sure Mother's Day is a wonderful day where we celebrate our mothers and shower them with gifts and praise.
This morning I woke up around 4:30 a.m. for a few minutes, but then fell back asleep until around 7:00 a.m. After laying in bed for a good hour or so I decided to turn on Pandora and the first song playing was “Visiting Hours” by Ed Sheeran. I was already thinking about my dad and wrestling with so many different feelings about the passing of my dad so this song helped release more of my emotions and I cried. I cried a lot. I decided I wasn’t ready to get up and get ready for the day. I checked my calendar and yep, my day was wide open so yep, it was my time, my time to be lazy, play my game on my phone to try to forget the pain and listen to music.
I set a goal to get out of bed by 10:00 a.m., but that time came and went. Then I set a goal for around 11:00 a.m. and that time came and went. My boys came into my room and visited with me. Rick checked on me and we’d laugh and talk and then he’d go back to work. I just couldn’t bring myself to get up and get going.
Then I get this picture on our Anderson Family thread that says “National Lazy Mom’s Day” is TODAY!!! One of my sister-in-laws commented that she wished she would have known earlier in the day. Then I shared this with one of my dear friends and she said, “Where are all of the babysitters for our lazy day?”
On most days I would have been well into my day and done several things, but today I thought, I’m so glad I lived up to National Lazy Mom’s Day - at least until 1 p.m.
Honestly, I needed today. I needed the down time. I needed time to myself in my room, in the comfort of my blankets to cry, laugh and think about my dad. I thought about the funeral that was one week ago today. I thought about driving away from the cemetery and leaving my dad there - I know it was just his body, but it’s his body that was with his spirit here on Earth that we loved so much. It was his touch that gave me a hug. It was his mouth that said “I love you sweetheart.” It was him that walked around the yard and wondered where his tools were - who had borrowed them. It was my dad that sat at the end of the kitchen table doing genealogy and working on things for my parents 50th that’s tomorrow - his excitement was like a little child.
I know that there’s a plan, that we’ll see him again, but that seems so far away. I know that he’s with me in spirit, but honestly right now that’s not enough. Call me selfish, whatever it is at this time, but it’s just not enough right now.
Even if it’s not for a whole day, I hope that for each one of us as women, we can take time for ourselves, take time to care for ourselves, allow ourselves to be “lazy” for a moment.
A wife and mother of 4 boys and 2 daughter-in-law, I have spent my entire adult life devoted to my family. I have been busy in their schools, supporting them in all of their school work, sporting events, activities, etc. I spent years heavily involved in the PTA, church callings, etc Life for me has always been overwhelmingly busy. While I thought this was my sanity, the truth is it masked issues - real issues - that I needed to work on to gain true sanity. I am sharing my story in this blog. I do this so that I might be able to help other women find their true sanity